Remember that in some cases, a friend isn’t selfish when they finally express that “you have been acting funny” or if they decide to just deal with you from a distance.

It’s not always about the quantity; it’s about the quality, and a TRUE friend ALWAYS picks up on the difference. They just chose not to play dat shit anymore, lol! This person KNOWS you’re going through something, this person KNOWS you have a lot on your plate, and this person KNOWS that shit has been real AF for you, BUT please understand that that consideration has to go both ways for it to be a worthy relationship for both parties involved. (That might have gone over your head, lol)

Basically, step up your communication and your consideration! The things you’re going through isn’t an excuse to emotionally dump stuff on your “ships” but be emotionally unavailable when it’s convenient. Understand that a “ship” can be understanding of what you’re going through but also want to protect themselves from the up and downs of your emotional rollercoaster.

Stop playing with folks that love you!

Stop telling people how to take your distance and unavailability!

Stop making folks feel bad because they want consistency from their “SHIPS.”

Stop using memes as an excuse for your shitty behavior!

Grown folks know it’s not about them. It’s actually about US! That shit is abusive, and that’s what some of y’all are in denial to admit. You want the emotional support and physical backing but also want to be able to check out when you feel like it.

That is toxic!!!!!


  1. NaQutia says:

    Say it louder for the people in the back!

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  2. Eloise says:

    I felt this deep as fk. I feel like this is me. Always dumping, then checking out without relizing it. Acknowledging a problem is the first step. You are amazing miss.

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    1. Awwww, thank you, hunni! Yes, the first step is acknowledgment but don’t forget that the second step is changed behavior. You’re amazing, hunni! Let the people you trust enough to vent to when things are difficult also be there for you when things are going well. You want to have balance SHIPS in your life, but you also have to give them…


  3. Love this blog! So beautiful, powerful, and inspirational. Keep them coming!!!!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much! I’m working very hard to get back to the place I was when I started this blog journey so it feels great to know that my words inspire…


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